What is happening with you?

November 24th, 2011

Hi there. Dan here. Still awake though borderline asleep. Things have been very busy indeed but like I have said before – the baby is coming soon, we can rest then……. hang on? There may be a flaw in that plan.

I received an email earlier this week from some old friends of mine back from when I was just an 18 year old boy travelling to the third world country of Cambodia on a government-funded study tour. It was an incredible experience, one that I won’t forget, so it was a big surprise to find an email from three of the people who were on that trip who had all met up for dinner. The email said hi, told me what they were doing and how they decided to google me to see if they could find me (which they did). They then asked the question that also happens to be the title of today’s episode:

What is happening with you?

10 years, where do you start! I am a completeley different person now to when I was ten years ago. In fact I am a completely different person than I was one year ago. Every six months or so I look back and think “man, I am so glad I have grown up. I was so immature back then”,’ only to come to another 6 months down the track and I think the same thing about the person I am now. Are you still following me.

So what do you answer that age old question with?

So here is the issue. For years I was caught up with the underlying feeling that I had to prove myself. So if I had any achievement no matter how small it may be I would want to show the world that I had made it. I remember when I co-wrote my first song “Love Never Fails” that got on a kids album. When I say co-wrote that is being very generous. Dave Wakerley and a guy called Gio wrote the song, I just played around a bit with the song and added in a Santa reference amongst other things. I remember I was so proud of myself. I was a published song writer, a fantastic achievement where not many people can get to the same dizzying heights as I had accomplished. I used to check itunes to see if my song was the most popular song off the album (which it wasn’t) and often watch the film clip on youtube to check how many hits it was up to. My goodness I was a mess.

Now all of this is very embarrasing to admit but I hope it serves it purpose in showing us that there are a lot of things that we think are extremely important, that we are extremely proud of and want to let other’s know we have achieved; but ultimately it doesn’t really matter. At the time we are so happy with ourselves and it is one of the first things we would report when asked the question “What is happening with you?”.

I have come to realise more and more recently that the value of the things I am extremely proud of are over-inflated. Don’t get me wrong, there is still a lot of value in them, but compared to what really matters they do not even come close.

I had another friend I hadn’t talked to for about 5 years, sms me the other day. After letting me know how work was going and that they are expecting a baby, they asked the question “What is happening with you?”.

There were a lot of things I could have told them about – what I am working on in Kidmin; my new job; the fact I lost 21kg last year…all of which do have some value but because I was limited in characters (as an sms can get too long), I simply wrote this: “I am up to a lot these days but all that is important is I am a husband to the most wonderful and beautiful woman in the world, and a father to such a precious 2 year old girl with another baby coming very soon. That all that is really happening and I love it”.

I resisted all temptation to spout off my achievements, to look good and to prove myself. Finally after all these years, I may have come to the conclusion that I have nothing to prove.

Have Fun.


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One Response to “What is happening with you?”

  1. Nathan J. Anderson Says:

    Thanks for opening up your heart.I totally can track with you. Way too often I hold on to the glitzy things that seem to make me seem important, when the truth is that it is all just chasing after the wind.
    The funny thing is that I can be doing the exact same task – with an attitude of people-pleasing it is chasing after the wind, but with an attitude of obedience and peace it is not.

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